One of the most important things I’ve learned throughout years of living is you must invest in yourself. If you don’t, who else will? Sure. Your parents could, your friends could, or your significant other could. But eventually, in specific ways, the support you’ve been lent will lessen. It’s simply a harsh reality of life.
Investment from others
If you had a great support system growing up, you’ve likely had someone invest in you. I’d say for most people, the primary investors in life have been their parents. From a young age, many of our parents invest in the person we become and are still growing into daily. At some point, your parents probably noticed you taking a liking to a specific area of life.
Maybe you were intrigued by sports and competition, so they enrolled you in several sports leagues to see which one piqued your interest the most. Perhaps they realized you were fond of creativity. So they purchased blank canvases, pallets, paint, and brushes, to fuel your creative nature. These are just a few examples of investment, but there are other sources outside of our families.
There are also secondary sources of investment. It could’ve been your elementary school teacher who saw potential in you and decided to work with you after hours when they weren’t getting paid because they thought you had a real chance at becoming an outstanding academic. Maybe it was your high school coach who saw talent in you and had you participate in individual workouts because they noticed something unique and, ultimately, invested in you. All of these individuals contributed to helping you become the person you are and gave you opportunities that you may not otherwise have.
Invest in yourself
Yet, sooner or later, as with most things in life, things progress or regress in some areas. Sometimes the older you get, the less your social circle and peers become invested in you. That great idea you had to start your own business and revolutionize an industry isn’t viewed with the same enthusiasm and intensity as when you were younger by the close figures in your life. Part of this is due to your age and the expectations of you to fend for yourself. It’s also societal conditioning and the expectations of us to follow suit and either go to college or get a job, get married, have kids, and retire.
As sad as it is to say, it’s like the older you get, the less your peers believe in you and your dreams. The support you once received as a potential child prodigy has now regressed into an occasional “great job” for creating something that took months on end and left you exhausted. Fortunately for me, I’ve always had parents who’ve believed in me. But even they, too, have questioned what I was doing at times.
It’s not to say questioning doesn’t have its place, as sometimes questioning can aid us in our pursuit to find what it is we are truly destined to do. I mean I’ve questioned what I was doing at times when I created this website and the one before it. Was this really what I was meant to do? To write and inspire others with my words to leave my mark on this world? I believe so, and thankfully, my parents do too. My girlfriend and a few friends have also believed in and encouraged me, but I can’t say the same for everyone else.
“However, all I needed was those individuals and a little faith in myself.”
You are worth it
There is power in the lessening support you receive from others over the years. The decrease in investment from those around me, in the person I wanted to become and dreams I wanted to accomplish, only fueled my desire to make them happen. For me, it was extra motivation. When I created my first website, many people told me they weren’t sure if I should do it because I’d probably never be successful with it, and the market is saturated.
They asked what would make me different than anyone else. As if I didn’t have what it took to separate myself from other people in the space. When I made this website, Align, many others said the same thing when I mentioned it. It hurt me, but deep down, it ignited a spark in me to prove anyone who doubted me wrong. There’s motivation to be gained from the hesitation of others, especially from those close to you.
It’s because I knew I was worth it. I knew nobody was fully aware of all the hard work and dedication I put into my craft—the countless time spent creating and crafting consistent content. The hours poured into research and learning. I knew the people who questioned me didn’t honestly know me, and the type of relentless drive I have when I am passionate about something. I also knew the ones who did know me but still weren’t sure about what I was trying to accomplish, such as my close friends and, at times, even my parents, wouldn’t stop me because I believed in myself. I had faith in creating my own path and not letting anyone stop me from doing so.
Sometimes in life, you have to invest in yourself, even when no one else will. No one can do it for you. People can assist you on your journey,
“But you are the force that drives the course of your life.”
Don’t ever let anyone stop you from doing something you want to do. After all, this is your life that you were gifted, and it would be a shame if you let someone else inhibit you from fulfilling your destiny. You know yourself better than anyone, so seek out what is in your heart, and work relentlessly for it. Invest in yourself because eventually, the support from others will decrease and, more importantly, because you are worth it.